Healing Comes In Waves

Hi, my name is Atty. I'm a writer, marketer, and also Zia’s friend.

I want to speak about growth, not in the most serious way, because that’s not my style, but just in the way that growing changes your perspective. I think healing and growth work hand in hand; healing comes in waves, and growth also comes in waves. 

This year has changed my perspective on so many things. Growth tells you you must heal to move on from certain aspects of your life. To truly grow, you cannot move with baggage from years ago; you must shed some things as you go. 

This unlearning, healing, and growth has also affected how I view my friends. I expected so much from people because I was willing to give so much.

The growth I’ve attained now involves realising that people can only choose to provide you with what they can, and sometimes, what they have is not much. You can’t fault them for that, and because we love people, it doesn’t mean they have to love us the way we love them.

Maybe it’ll hurt—it should hurt. It’s hard to give and not be able to receive as much as you give, but at the same time, it is your choice to give, and, it is also their choice not to give back. Loving and giving should not always be transactional or on the same level.

However, it is only up to you to know when to draw the line with how much of yourself you give to people who do not, in Gen Z terms, “match your freak.” 

Also, this year, I learnt how to be selfish with what I allow in my space; I’ve had an issue learning how to do this for so long. This month, I was able to practice allowing only what I wanted and vetting out what would hurt me and not serve me in the long run.

I have let go of a lot of hurt, and the burden on my shoulder feels lighter; my healing has continued to come in waves; sometimes, it’s in big waves, and sometimes, it’s in small waves, but this ocean has not stopped flowing. 

Today, it’s a big ocean that brought a lot of hurt, and who knows, tomorrow, it might be healing from the hurt the waves brought. 

On Music

I’ve been listening to "Tattoo" by Renee Rap and the entire "Right Place, Wrong Person" album by RM. 

Greetings from a Siren💜